Take-out Tuesday – Helpless tactics of the hopeless romantic

Since it’s Valentine’s day (or was),  I had a day full of many events and was unable to blog during the day. However, since I’ve been missing days lately, I figured I’d still blog for take-out Tuesday even though it’s now technically Wednesday. I’m sure you guys are okay with that, right?
Great! Now let’s get to blogging.
Valentine’s Day, otherwise known as Single’s Awareness Day, is typically the one day of the year every guy takes his girl out; they usually go out to eat at a fancy restaurant (that he can only afford once a year), see a movie, etc.  Then the next day continues as if V-day never even happened.  Why is that?  Why must Valentine’s be a day that romance starts and ends, rather than a day that helps romance continue?  I’ve heard countless stories of girls who are ‘in love’ with their boyfriend on Valentine’s night and a couple weeks later they break up.  Who would want to be with someone that’s only romantic one night of the year anyways?
One thing I can say I’m fully secure in and outrageously happy about is that my God’s romance doesn’t end.  He says that “His love endures forever…” (Ps. 100:5), so why would I settle with worldly ‘love and romance’?
Now don’t get me wrong, God is the creator of romance.  After all, he IS love (1 John 4:8).  But so often, that romance He has created gets twisted and taken out of context to satisfy the world.
I want to talk directly to the single folks reading.
If you’re single on Valentine’s Day and hate it, quit moping around.  In a lot of ways, you have a great advantage over couples.  You really aren’t alone.  You have God, the creator of the world, who loves you with an everlasting, unconditional, non-judging love.  Why would you WANT anything less?  Plus, if you so desire, you even have more freedom to have more than one valentine.
But I must say, I completely understand how you feel.  I’m a hopeless romantic.  I tried so hard to find ‘the one’ on my own and quickly realized I was using helpless tactics of the hopeless romantic.  I struggled with “relationship syndrome” almost my entire life — always trying to find love in relationships to fill my gaping hole of emptiness.  It never worked.
However, I did finally fill that hole, but not with a relationship with a boy; it was through a relationship with Jesus Christ.  HE filled that hole.  Now instead of trying to find a relationship on my own and have Jesus as a side piece, I have Jesus as the center piece and as the extra’s, he can send me that man he has for me; I’ve given it all to Him.  Once I decided to give up searching for a guy on my own abilities, Jesus took the reigns and now I don’t even want to date.
So I encourage all of you – single or not – to search after Jesus daily.  Allow Him to fill your heart and any emptiness you may be experiencing.  He WANTS to fill you, but you just have to reach out and allow Him to.  I’m praying that whoever reads this will soften their heart to allow God to do marvelous things in their lives.
Since it is Valentine’s Day, what more appropriate way to end this blog post with a few chapters of the bible explaining the ultimate gift of love.
I hope you all had a MAGNIFICENT Valentine’s Day. Let the romance thrive!
xoxo, T
John 3:16
“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”
Psalm 100:5
“For the LORD is good and his love endures forever; his faithfulness continues through all generations.”
Romans 5:8
“But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
Romans 12:9
“Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.”
1 Corinthians 13
“If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.  If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

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